Introduction
Fluffy the Golden Retriever paced back and forth in front of the window, ears perked and eyes fixed on the outside. As soon as he heard footsteps coming up the walkway, Fluffy began wagging his tail and whimpering with excitement. When his owner finally opened the door, Fluffy jumped up with joy and eagerly licked their face in loving greeting. Scenes like this are common for dogs with separation anxiety who greatly miss their owners when left alone.
Signs Your Dog is Worried
Some common signs that your dog may be suffering from separation anxiety or worry when you leave include:
- Pacing – Dogs may walk back and forth repeatedly by doors or windows when anxious for you to return (ASPCA).
- Whining – Your dog may whine, cry or howl when you leave or while you are gone (RSPCA).
- Barking – Frequent barking right after you leave is a sign your dog wants you to stay (The Humane Society).
- Destructive Behavior – Dogs may scratch doors or chew items when alone as a way to self-soothe anxiety (ASPCA).
Paying attention to these common signs of canine worry can help you determine if your dog may have separation anxiety that needs attention.
Why Dogs Worry
Dogs are highly social animals with an inherited pack mentality, meaning they crave constant companionship and affection from their human families. According to the VCA, dogs are social beings who feel most comfortable when surrounded by their loved ones. They view their human owners as part of their pack, so separation can trigger feelings of anxiety or stress.
Dogs have lived closely alongside humans for thousands of years, VCA says, and over time this has led to the development of a strong attachment between our two species. As a result, dogs often see their owners as parental figures and rely on them heavily for security and comfort. Being left alone goes against their natural instincts to remain close to the pack at all times.
Additionally, Malena DeMartini notes that as social animals, dogs need regular interaction and engagement to be psychologically healthy. Extended isolation deprives them of this social stimulation, which can negatively impact their mental state and cause separation distress.
When Dogs Worry Most
Dogs with separation anxiety tend to worry most in the following situations:
Owner’s Daily Departure
Many dogs become extremely distressed when their owner leaves the home every day for work or errands. The predictability of the owner’s departure triggers anxiety. These dogs may pace, pant, whine, or bark excessively within the first 15-45 minutes after the owner leaves. Some dogs urinate, defecate, or destroy property during this period. According to the ASPCA, this behavior occurs almost exclusively in the owner’s absence. [1]
New Environments
Dogs with separation anxiety may become fearful and anxious in new environments away from home. For example, they may seem extremely stressed when left at a kennel, pet sitter’s home, or veterinarian’s office. They may try to escape, destroy property, or injure themselves while attempting to reunite with their owner. Separation anxiety could worsen during holidays, vacations, or moving homes. [2]
How to Ease Your Dog’s Worry
One of the best ways to ease your dog’s worry and separation anxiety is to make sure they get plenty of exercise, playtime, and chew toys before you leave. A good long walk or play session will help tire your dog out, making them more likely to relax and sleep while you’re gone. Allow at least 30-60 minutes for vigorous exercise like running or playing fetch. You can also provide interactive puzzle toys or stuffed Kongs for your dog to focus on and chew. Rotating through different toys will keep your dog engaged and distracted in your absence. Just make sure to remove any small toys or chew pieces before leaving to prevent choking hazards.
According to the RSPCA, “Encourage your pet to relax during their alone time. Try to take your dog for a walk before you go out so that they have the opportunity to go to the toilet and burn off some energy.” Allowing your dog to get their energy out ahead of time can make a significant difference in easing their anxiety levels.
Training Tips
There are several effective training techniques to help dogs overcome separation anxiety, including desensitization, crate training, and rewards.
Desensitization involves gradually increasing the amount of time a dog is left alone, starting with very short durations like 30 seconds. Praise and rewards are given when the dog remains calm. This process helps the dog learn being alone is not scary. According to the ASPCA, the main rule is to plan absences shorter than the time it takes your dog to become upset. Rover recommends starting with just walking to the door, opening it a crack, closing it, and walking away. Slowly work up to longer departures.
Crate training utilizes a dog’s den instinct to create a safe space. Make the crate comfortable with a bed and toys. Use treats to reward voluntary crate time. Feed meals inside and leave the door open for naps. Slowly work up to closing the crate door for short periods. The Farmers Dog suggests crating while doing initial desensitization training.
Always reward calm behavior during separation training with praise or treats. This reinforces the desired response to being left alone. Setting up puzzles, chews or engaging toys can also make the crate a positive place. According to the ASPCA, very high-value rewards should be given only during separation training.
Seeking Professional Help
In severe cases of separation anxiety, it may be necessary to seek professional help from an animal behaviorist or certified dog trainer. These specialists can assess your dog’s specific issues and design an effective training program (McPeake and Mills, 2014). Some options to consider:
- Work with a certified applied animal behaviorist who has advanced training in treating anxiety disorders in dogs.
- Hire an in-home dog trainer to teach you techniques to gradually get your dog more comfortable being alone.
- Enroll your dog in a structured group obedience class to increase confidence and independence.
Your vet may also prescribe anti-anxiety medication for your dog, such as fluoxetine or clomipramine, to reduce stress and make training easier. Meds work best alongside behavior modification techniques, not as a sole solution. Only give anxiety medication under your vet’s guidance and supervision (ASPCA, 2023).
Preparing for Time Apart
Leaving your dog for an extended period can be stressful for both you and your pup. However, there are steps you can take beforehand to ease the transition and set your dog up for success while you’re gone.
Start by doing some test runs where you leave for short periods of time – an hour or two at first – and gradually increase the duration. This helps your dog get used to your absence. Maintain your normal routines as much as possible before longer trips; dogs thrive on routine and familiarity. Consider enrolling your dog in doggie daycare a few times before an extended trip so they can get comfortable in that environment.
According to Rover.com, “This simple, tried-and-true tip is key to your dog’s happiness. Take a walk, play fetch, or snuggle with your dog before you pack up. If you plan an action-packed, stimulating outing right before you go, your dog will be tired and content when you head out the door.”
The more you can do to stick to your dog’s normal schedule, get them comfortable being alone for periods of time, and end on a positive note right before leaving, the easier the transition will be for your faithful companion.
Maintaining Your Bond
Spending quality time together is crucial for strengthening the bond between you and your dog. Go for walks and hikes together as often as possible – this allows you to interact and explore the world as a team. Make the walks engaging by working on training cues along the way. Bring toys to play fetch during exercise sessions to make it more fun for your dog.
Set aside time for play at home as well. Interactive games like tug-of-war, hide-and-seek, and fetch are great bonding activities. Praise and reward your dog generously during play to reinforce the positive association. Consider getting puzzle toys that mentally stimulate your dog and require you to engage with them during play.
Don’t forget to incorporate cuddles and pets into your routine. Dogs thrive on physical affection from their owners. Set aside some couch time for snuggles, belly rubs, and relaxing together. Grooming your dog also provides an opportunity for bonding through touch. All of these shared moments will strengthen your relationship over time.
Establishing a consistent daily routine allows you and your dog to connect through anticipated habits and interactions. Your dog will find comfort in the structure. Make sure to build in quality time for bonding activities like the ones mentioned here.
With a little time and intention every day, you can maintain and even deepen your bond with your dog. Simple gestures of affection and shared activities go a long way. A strong relationship enhances enjoyment of pet ownership for both you and your dog.
Conclusion
Having a dog that worries about being separated from you can be challenging. However, by understanding the signs of separation anxiety, implementing training techniques, considering professional help when needed, and taking steps to prepare your dog for time apart, you can help ease your canine companion’s worries.
Remember that a strong bond with your dog requires quality time together along with appropriate structure and training. Be patient, consistent, and compassionate as you work to build your dog’s confidence. With a multifaceted approach focused on meeting your dog’s needs, you can help alleviate anxiety and reinforce your loving relationship.
If your dog’s worrying seems extreme or you are struggling to make progress on your own, do not hesitate to enlist the guidance of a certified professional. They can provide invaluable expertise and support. Your dog’s wellbeing is well worth the investment.
While it may take time and dedication, you can help your worried dog feel more secure. With the right techniques and commitment, your dog’s anxiety will lessen, his true happy, confident nature will shine through, and your bond will grow ever stronger.