The loss of a canine companion can be extremely difficult and emotional for both dogs and their human caretakers. When two dogs have lived together and one passes away, it leaves the surviving dog without their long-time friend and companion. This abrupt absence of a housemate can be hard for dogs that have bonded and relied upon each other for years. Understanding the grieving process and learning how to help a dog through the loss of a sibling or loved one is an important part of being a responsible pet owner.
It’s normal for dogs to grieve the loss of a companion, just as humans experience grief when they lose a loved one. Recognizing symptoms of grief in a dog, providing them comfort during the mourning period, and eventually helping them adjust to life without their companion is important for their long-term health and happiness. With patience and compassion, pet owners can help their dogs gradually recover after losing their close canine friend.
Normal Grieving Behaviors
When a dog loses a companion they have lived with, it is common for them to exhibit grieving behaviors similar to those seen in humans. Some of the most common signs of grief in dogs include:
– Changes in appetite – A grieving dog may have a reduced appetite and be less interested in food. This is due to depression lowering motivation to eat. Make sure to monitor their food intake.
– Lethargy – Dogs who are grieving tend to sleep more and have lower energy levels when awake. They may be less motivated to play or go for walks.
– Anxiety – Some dogs become more anxious after losing a companion. Signs include pacing, whimpering, and seeking more attention.
– Withdrawing from humans and other pets – Social withdrawal is common in grieving dogs. They may want to be alone more.
These changes are normal parts of the grieving process. With time and support, most dogs will start to return to their usual appetite and activity levels. Be patient and understanding during this difficult transition. [1]
Providing Comfort
Dogs that are grieving the loss of a companion may need some extra comfort and affection during this difficult transition. Be sure to spend more dedicated one-on-one time together and be affectionate through petting, brushing, massages, or just sitting close by (1). Sticking to your dog’s normal routine as much as possible will also help them feel more secure when everything seems uncertain after a loss (2). Try to keep feeding, walking, playing, and snuggling on a consistent schedule.
Some additional suggestions for providing grieving dogs comfort include:
- Give them a new toy or treat to distract and uplift them
- Use calming scents like lavender or chamomile around the home
- Play calming music to soothe their anxiety
- Try an adaptil collar or thundershirt to ease stress
- Go for frequent short walks to get them moving
The most important thing you can do is reassure your dog through quality time together and stick to their normal routine as much as possible. With patience and comfort, most dogs can adjust to the loss.
(1) https://olddoghaven.org/how-to-help-a-grieving-dog/
(2) https://vcahospitals.com/know-your-pet/do-dogs-mourn
Preventing Depression
When a dog loses a companion, it can often lead to depression. Preventing depression in a grieving dog is important to help them through the mourning process. Some ways to help prevent depression include:
Environmental enrichment – Providing a grieving dog with interactive toys, changes to their environment, and mental stimulation can help prevent boredom and depression. Rotating toys, rearranging furniture, and providing food puzzles are some examples. According to the ASPCA, “Environmental enrichment is an easy, effective way to help improve your dog’s quality of life.”
Exercise – Getting a grieving dog physical activity and exercise is vital. Long walks, playing fetch, or taking them to a dog park can provide mental distraction and release endorphins to boost their mood. According to the Blue Cross, “Exercise will help your dog sleep and get into a routine again.”
It’s important not to overwhelm a grieving dog, but providing engaging activities, mental stimulation, and quality time with their owner can go a long way in preventing depression after the loss of a canine companion.
When to Seek Help
If your dog’s grieving process lasts for more than a couple weeks or their behavior takes a significant turn for the worse, it may be time to seek professional help. According to the VCA, prolonged symptoms like loss of appetite, lethargy, restlessness, and anxiety warrant a vet visit to rule out any medical causes. If the vet gives a clean bill of health, you may want to consult with a certified dog trainer or animal behaviorist. They can assess your dog’s emotional state and recommend targeted strategies to help them through this difficult transition.
Signs that your dog’s grief has become severe and unhealthy include aggression, destructiveness, obsessive behaviors, loss of housetraining, and antisocial or neurotic activities. If you observe any of these, do not hesitate to reach out to a professional. With compassion, patience, and the right support, you can guide your dog through grief in a healthy way.
Coping With Loss
“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” – Dr. Seuss
Losing a pet can be absolutely devastating. When a dog you love passes away, especially if you lived with them for many years, the grief can seem unbearable. It’s important during this difficult time to focus on all the positive memories from your time together. Remember the silly things they used to do that made you laugh, their favorite toys and activities, and all the special bonds and routines you shared. Reflect on how your life was enriched and made happier by their presence. Although the loss hurts deeply, the pain reflects just how meaningful the relationship was. In the words of Dr. Seuss, even through the tears it’s worth smiling over all the joy you were fortunate enough to experience.
Some ideas for commemorating your pet’s memory include looking through old photos and videos, creating a memory book or tribute video, planting a tree in their honor, holding a memorial ceremony, or making a donation to an animal charity. Talking with other pet owners who have gone through the grieving process can also provide comfort and reassurance that you are not alone. With time, support, and focusing on the positives, the intense sorrow can gradually make way for fond remembrances.
Making Adjustments
Losing a pet can greatly disrupt your daily routine. Dogs often have set schedules for things like feeding, walks, play time, and cuddle time. When one dog passes away, it leaves a big gap in the surviving dog’s life. As the owner, you will also feel the absence of that special bond and companionship.
To help your surviving dog adjust, try to maintain as much consistency as possible. Keep walks, meals, and other activities on a similar schedule. You may need to adjust portions of food or the length/location of walks now that it’s just one dog. Any changes should be made gradually to allow time to adapt.
Reorganize your home and belongings if needed, such as removing food bowls, beds, or toys. This will help minimize reminders during the initial grieving period. Put away collars, leashes, photos, or other memorabilia until you are ready to reflect on them.
Spend extra quality time with your surviving dog and stick to your typical training routines. Providing lots of affection, playtime, training, and attention can help lift their spirits. Maintaining structure and familiar activities can ease the transition to life without their companion.
Be patient and understanding as your dog figures out their new normal. Grief affects dogs deeply too. With time and support, your dog will adapt to new routines and form an even stronger bond with you.
Deciding on a New Dog
The decision of when to get a new dog after the loss of a beloved companion is a very personal one. There is no set timeframe, as each person grieves differently. Some may feel ready just weeks or months after their dog dies, while others may need over a year before considering a new pet. It’s important not to rush into getting a dog before you have sufficiently worked through your grief. Some experts recommend waiting at least three months before getting another dog, to fully process your emotions and assess your readiness.
When you do feel ready to welcome a new dog, take time to honor your past dog and the special bond you shared. Perhaps do something meaningful like planting a tree or creating a memory book. It may feel conflicting to move on while still grieving, but your deceased pet would want you to be happy. The new dog is not meant to “replace” the one you lost but rather to start a fresh new chapter. Be patient with yourself through this transition period.
Consider fostering or volunteering at a shelter first to test if you’re ready for the responsibility of a new dog. Communicate with your family before adopting, to ensure everyone feels comfortable with this step. When you do find the right dog, cherish the new adventures ahead while continuing to fondly remember your old companion.
Introducing a New Dog
Bringing a new dog into the home after one passes away can be an emotional process. It’s important to introduce the new dog gradually to set everyone up for success.
Start by keeping the new dog separate from the surviving dog at first. Allow the surviving dog to sniff bedding or toys from the new dog to get used to the scent. Next, do short, supervised meet and greets on neutral territory outside the home. Keep these positive and fun with treats and toys. Don’t force any interaction.
Once the dogs seem comfortable around each other, allow short periods of supervised time together inside the home. Watch closely for any signs of tension or aggression. If all goes well, lengthen the periods of co-mingling bit by bit.
Be sure to give the surviving dog one-on-one attention during this transition. Bring the new dog into the home gradually with patience. This thoughtful introduction can help both dogs acclimate to their new life together. According to the AKC, a gradual introduction sets up the surviving dog and new dog for success.
Providing Ongoing Support
It’s important to have patience and provide ongoing support as your dog grieves the loss of their companion. The grieving process can take weeks or even months, so try to be understanding of any changes in your dog’s behavior during this time (Pet Loss Grief Support Center). Some tips for providing support:
Take your dog to the vet for a wellness checkup. The stress of losing a housemate can impact their health, so it’s good to rule out any medical issues. Your vet can also provide advice on helping your dog through the grieving process (Paws, Whiskers & Wags).
Stick to your dog’s normal routine as much as possible. Consistency and structure will help provide comfort during this transition. Try to walk, feed, and play with them at the usual times.
Give your dog extra love and quality one-on-one time. This could include more petting, brushing, massages, or just sitting together calmly. Physical touch releases oxytocin which eases stress.
Consider getting a new companion, but don’t rush into it. Wait until your dog seems comfortable with their new normal before introducing a new housemate. When you do, take it slowly so they can warm up to each other.
